It is okay to be shy! I wish I had known that sooner!
If you are like me, parents evening consisted of going from teacher to teacher telling my parents that I was ‘too quiet’ and that I needed to ‘speak up more’ and ask questions and answer questions. HOW POINTLESS!
Yes I know the answer and no I am not being lazy, at that time in my life I did not feel confident in my ability to answer correctly or I speak in front of the class. Everyone learns differently and it’s often the quiet ones who actually are learning because they are listening to the lesson.
This was often the only criticism I would receive and so I associated me being shy as a bad trait of mine. As I have grown up I have realised that just because I am not obnoxious and loud that does not mean you have to change. I have also realised that you don’t have to label your self as an introvert. For example, I like meeting new people and I like going to parties but I still don’t speak up in seminars at uni. You are not just one personality type.
Instead of being labelled shy I like too think of it as being reserved. I might not be that annoying loud person who tells you my life story five minutes after meeting you and that’s okay.
I always think the reserved people are the best anyway, they observe. It took me a long time too not hate being ‘shy’, now I think being reserved adds mystery. You are the dark horse, you don’t give anything away because you don’t need too.
Unfortunately the loud people are often overcompensating for something they want to hind. The silly kid in class was just trying too get attention because they didn’t receive any at home. You on the other hand are quietly confident, you don’t need to be the centre of attention because you know that you are a good person who has their priorities straight.
Furthermore, I hate it when people say it too my face like, ‘your shy’ or ‘don’t be shy’, wow thanks you cured me. The reason I am not talking too you is because I observed you and realised you are not worth talking too, thanks goodbye.
I hope you related too this and I hope you enjoyed reading!
Eleanor Elizabeth xx